Why You Might Have to Find A Study Partner to Enjoy Studying
Last Updated: 31st of July, 2025
If You Usually Don't Enjoy Studying, I Get It
I’m not going to say “we’ve all been through this” because some people enjoy studying; I was not one of them, and you’re probably not yet since you’re here. You might also be curious about how having a study partner might boost your academic performance, which we will also address in terms of my own personal experience. I will be completely honest in that I’m not yet a lover of “studying,” but I do love “learning” about many things. It always felt so forced, and at some point, I just gave up and became very careless..
However, I love to learn and challenge myself, so after research I had done a while ago, I got introduced to the idea of a “study partner” and recently tried it for the first time, unintentionally. I met a girl, who I am friends with, from my university in the same cafe I went to, and we started revising for the exam we had there. Let me walk you through the insights and advantages of having a study partner according to my personal experience.
How Do I Find A Study Partner
So I first got introduced to this idea on Reddit. I was doing research for my blog and stumbled upon many posts of people asking for study partners on there. They simply posted their major and sometimes gender and age, with basic requirements like “Hey, looking for an undergraduate medical student to study with.” Personally, I do not trust the internet this much, especially as a woman. However, that is one way people use, and it often works! My experience was different because my friend and I met coincidentally at the cafe trying to study for the same exam, and then things just worked out, so that’s your alternative. You can go to your local cafe and get to know another woman (or a man if you’re a man) who wants to study with you. An even better way is to ask your friends who are in the same major or live close to meet regularly to study together at a nearby place or even at your houses. This is what I would prefer, because of my slightly introverted and shy nature.
What You Should Look for in A Study Partner
Don’t overthink this; it’s going to work out, and if it doesn’t, just find a new study partner. Although there are several basic traits we all love to have in our study partner. Some of these traits are:
- Compatibility – not in terms of big things like politics, but simply having mutual understanding of each other’s study techniques and how you can complement each other. For example, the girl I’m studying with likes to read the material and explain it like she’s teaching, and I memorize fast from listening. We also love to joke around occasionally, as it lightens the mood and adds excitement.
- Respect – an essencial quality in any kind of relationship is mutual respect. If one person knows about a topic more than the other, no judgement is allowed. We are here to boost each other up, not bring each other down.
- Responsibility – Having a study partner does not mean you can depend on each other for everything. It means that you boost each other up when needed to increase your passion for studying. When one of you is overwhelmed, space should be provided, and you cannot make the other person feel bad about it. In the end, people don’t owe you anything, which is why you should take responsibility for your studies during that time until the other person is available again.
Why It Works
I honestly don’t know how it works, but human connection is a powerful thing. Uniting with someone for the purpose of achieving a goal feels less like a responsibility and more like a journey, like when you’re participating in a protest or watching people do it. When one gets tired, the other takes over. When one feels discouraged, the other encourages. When taking a break, instead of scrolling on the phone, you probably laugh, joke, and stretch together. Interestingly, it often feels good to know that other people share your thoughts and struggles; it feels less lonely, and there is a kind of motivation in that. It’s not saying I’m glad someone struggles like me, it’s more of a I’m glad I’m less alone. I’d love to know about your experience or your thoughts on the subject, feel free to leave a comment down below and subscribe for more weekly blogs!
